Privacy in Relationships

A topic that came up a few times last week was ‘Privacy in Relationships”. Should there be any, and to what extent?

In my opinion, you should be able to check your partners cell phone or email at any given time if there is legitimate reasoning behind it. However there are also some restrictions with this.

Let’s say your partner lies to you (lies always warrant a reason to snoop) about where he is/was. Or even worse, your partner doesn’t come home a significant time after they said they would be home. I even warrant a little snooping if a rumor has surfaced about your partner that has you uneasy.

Anytime you are feeling extremely uneasy, that should warrant some explanation. You should be able to have access to his/her phone or emails to see whatever it is your concerned about. Do not allow your partner to tell you that you are insecure, or that you should TRUST them. Yes, we all want to trust our partner, but the world we are living in today is far too accepting of infidelities in a relationship.

HOWEVER this is NOT a green light to go snooping through his/her personal texts and emails with family members and people unassociated. There are boundaries, and he/she still has their privacy. He/she is allowed to vent and we all do it. So if your snooping into areas you don’t belong, you need to be aware that there could be texts or emails about you and your bad habits to his/her friends and family members. This doesn’t mean they don’t love you any less. In fact, it could mean they love you that much more. They are venting so they can let go of what is bothering them and move on to keep a happy and healthy relationship with you.