Avoiding toxic relationships can be difficult. Why, you ask? Because usually people aren’t ALL BAD. We tend to think if people are somewhat good, then they are good enough for us. Not true. People can sweep you off your feet and still find a way to bring you down. Ill give you some examples of a toxic relationship:
- If your spouse/friend only does what he/she wants, and cares very little about what makes you happy, that’s toxic
- If you are being called you names, or being belittled
- If you find yourself calling others names, or belittling others because someone else is
- If you have feelings of depression, anxiety, guilt, or shame because of things happening in your relationship
- If you are being abused mentally or physically
- If you are being manipulated you into thinking or doing bad things
- If you are being tempted into habits you have previously recovered from (alcohol, drugs, etc.)
Now the question is, How can you avoid these toxic relationships? Well, the best and easiest way to avoid these relationships is noticing signs right away and choosing to walk away from that relationship completely. It getS more and more difficult to just walk away when you are deeply involved with someone. However, it can and should be done. To do this properly and as quick as possibly, you will need to cut this person completely out of your life. Do not answer phone calls, do not return text messages or voicemails, and do not respond to emails. IF YOU FEEL THRETENED IN ANYWAY DURING THIS PROCESS, OR IF YOU THINK THERE IS A POSSIBILITY THAT THEY MAY HARM YOU OR SOMEONE ELSE, CONTACT THE POLICE IMMEDIATELY. At first, this might be difficult as the calls and texts are rolling in, but it will get easier and less frequent, until finally they get the picture and leave you alone.
Liz Skajem 