With all of these dating websites, its incredibly easy to find people to date. You simply go online, find the most attractive people, send them a cute little pick up line and BOOM- you have made a new friend. After a couple emails back and forth, you have a date. But are any of these people good for you and your life?
1.) Pictures– This is the first thing we notice, and you can actually tell a lot about a person just through the type of pictures they post.
If all their pictures are at a night club, they are most likely not settling down any time soon.
If they have pictures with expensive things (like standing next to a Ferrari that probably isn’t theirs, etc.) they are probably pretty flashy, and care way too much about their image.
Lets face it- No one is going to post pictures they don’t look good in, and a lot of the time the pictures will be slimming. But if every single picture is the ‘good angle selfie’, the ‘duck face’ or showing only part of their face… chances are the pictures are EXTREMELY slimming. A lot of people like some curves, so this point is just preference.
Look for pictures taken of them. Good pictures are ones with family members, children, or friends. If you are active, look for pictures of them outdoors. If you love animals, look for pictures with their dogs or cats.
2: Looking for- This section is the first thing you should notice. If you are looking for a real relationship, you want someone that is looking for the same thing.
Friends- if they are looking for friends, look away. Friends you can find at your local Starbucks, not online.
Casual Dating- Sometimes I encourage these if you are recently single from a long term relationship, just to get in the groove of dating again. Casual Dating is not to be taken seriously.
Serious Relationship- These are my favorite, I always encourage this. Its not quite at the ‘Looking for Marriage’ but they are definitely heading that route. Serious daters, not wanting to put too much pressure on Marriage.
Marriage: If you are extremely secure with what you want, and what you want is marriage, then I say go for it. Some people are a little intimidated, and that’s ok.
3. About Me: Now this is where you will find out what kind of personality they have.
Notice the grammar first. Their maturity level will shine bright with their grammar.They should not WriTe LiKe ThiS. They should not be replacing words , like Dat-That. Aint, still, after all these years, is not a word.
People should always write what they like to do in their ‘About Me’ section. If their idea of a good time is drinking, partying, oe smoking weed, they need a new hobby.
If you are family oriented, make sure they have included ‘hanging with family’ somewhere in this section. If you are active, look for hiking, sports, etc.
If you are looking for a serious relationship, I would recommend looking for things that may seem a little on the boring side. Things like ‘I can have a good time doing just about anything. Im really easy going’. People that post things like, ‘I really love to randomly go on week long road trips and skydive on my days off’ most likely aren’t settling down.
4. First Move- The first email is crucial. whether you are receiving the first message, or getting a response back from the message you wrote.
Sex- if they mention sex in any way, its all bad. Even if it is just bringing attention to some of your private body parts they really enjoy {boobs, behind, mouth, etc.).
Long pasted messages- If the email is really long, and says nothing directly specifically at you, its probably a pasted message that they send to hundreds of people without any thought. These are bad, because they don’t actually care about you at all. They just wait to see who writes back and then proceed to try and get some ass.
Look for short, but to the point messages. Like, “Hey I liked what you wrote in your profile. I really like to go hiking as well. Maybe we could get together sometime?” This says that they took the time out to actually read your profile, and they are into some of the same things as you.
5. First Date- The first date is the most important date.
NEVER go somewhere that you will be stuck for hours. There is no guarantee that you will like this person. You may have loves their profile, and thought they were perfect, but you still don’t really know them and unfortunately, people lie.
NEVER go to a movie. Why do people think its a good idea to see a movie on a first date? Horrible idea! You need to interact with them, and actually talk. Sitting in a movie is not interacting!
Stick to coffee, breakfast, lunch, dinner, etc. Those are all quick, easy ice breakers. If you like them, you can continue the date with something afterward. If you don’t like them, you can leave. Simple as that.
NEVER be rude, and ALWAYS go on a second date if you aren’t sure. Sometimes people let their nerves take over and aren’t themselves. So, if you thought they were perfect online or on the phone and in person they were a little off, give it one last try before giving up completely.
Liz Skajem 